FORGIVENESS – A choice that leads to peace of mind and happiness

SCRIPTURE:  “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy & dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness & patience. Meditation Icon Bear with each other & forgive whatever grievances you may have against one   another.  Forgive as the Lord gave you.”  –  Colossians 3:12-13 NIV


In listening to an interview with the Dalai Lama, as read by the author of his biography, Claude Levenson, I was impressed by the Dalai Lama’s emphasis on compassion and forgiveness.  He was saying that these two attitudes, when put into action, are the key to his peace of mind and happiness.

The following week I focused on being more forgiving, and began wondering how fast I could forgive a real or perceived offense.  If we feel offended or hurt when our ego is wounded, then perhaps humility is a catalyst for speedy forgiveness.  The challenge to forgive quickly wasn’t easy!  As I took time to consider each situation where I felt wronged, I really did have to see how my pride and selfishness influenced my interpretation of the exchange with the other person.

When you stop to consider how your ego filters your interpretation of what another person has done, you may realize that there was really nothing to forgive, because it was your thinking that was incorrect.  Perhaps you expect more of a person than they are capable of or willing to give.

You can choose peace of mind and happiness through forgiveness.  Forgiveness is the key to mending and strengthening the relationships you cherish so much.  Regardless of who is at fault, clothing yourself with compassion, kindness, gentleness, and some humility equips you to forgive.  Choose this path and see if you don’t smile a little more.

“We may not be saintly enough to love our enemies, but, for the sake of our own health and happiness, let’s at least forgive them and forget them.”  – Dale Carnegie


A.S.K. (the Higher Choices Process)

Ask – questions to discover the direction God would suggest you take.

1. Is there anyone you need to forgive this week, however large or small the offense?
2. What may be hindering your ability to forgive?
3. Is continuing to hold a grudge serving you in a positive way?
Seek – ideas on choices that will take you further along your higher path.
Knock – truth embraced through practice and persistence; abiding.



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